Your Layoff, Your Brain How to Get Out of Your Own Way

Your Layoff, Your Brain How to Get Out of Your Own WayYour Layoff, Your Brain How to Get Out of Your Own WayTo combat the stress and anxiety that come along with unemployment, follow these tips from mental-health experts.Grace Barry did everything right.After being laid off from a high-level IT position at a government agency in December 2007, she got right to work at the job of finding a job.I didnt anticipate having a difficult time, said Barry. I knew that looking for a job was a full-time job, but Im very organized about it. I take advice. I went and rewrote my resume so that it was more achievement-based I read the books I signed up for Ladders I scoured the Internet and, at one time, I had more than 100 applications out there.Barry added that, through it all, she never stopped networking.The result of doing everything right for about seven months? One interview.Barry did receive an offer as a result of that July 2008 interview - but the job was in financial services, and the o ffer fell through when the industry collapsed.Looking for a job after being involuntarily let go from a position is difficult under any circumstances. In todays economy - with a national unemployment rate that recently topped 8 percent - a job search can be prolonged, and the effects can be even more pronounced on your body, mind and spirit.Its a big challenge to your capacity to adapt, just like a prolonged illness is a challenge or going through war is a challenge, said Michael Jolkovski PhD, a psychologist and psychoanalyst in Falls Church, Va., and principal at Working Through, a consultancy focused on helping creative teams work effectively together.When a rolle loses a job, he or she is likely to experience anger, stress, and feelings of anxiety and depression. Left unchecked, these feelings can become detrimental to a persons physical and mental health, hindering her ability to search effectively for a new job.In short, our natural responses may work against us.Anxiety trig gers a sense of alertnessIn itself, anxiety isnt a bad thing. Indeed, its a prime motivator when it comes to tackling challenges.People do have physiological changes when they get anxious - their fight-or-flight ordnungsprinzip gets going, and, biologically, through evolution, if we perceive a threat we need to fight it or run away or, in some cases, freeze and hope that it ignores us, said Kathryn J. Fraser, a psychiatrist and associate professor of psychiatry at the University of New Mexico School of Medicine in Albuquerque. Unfortunately, the way our culture is, we dont have people to fight or to run away from. Weve got bigger, more nebulous things.Fraser - who has been medical director of the Continuing Care Clinic at the UNM Psychiatric Center for seven years and whose just-completed first novel, A Journey, a Reckoning and a Miracle, will be published in July - said physical responses to an involuntary job loss can include sleeplessness, tension leading to headaches and stom achaches, and panic attacks that generate myriad physical symptoms.Anxiety symptoms, like heightened senses, might be useful to propel us in the short term, but they can lead to depression if experienced over longer periods, Fraser said.If people get more into depression its partly because of whats called the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis, abbreviated as HPA, she said. It has to do with cortisol - thats a part of our endocrine system that gets going. This is very useful in short-term threatening situations, but with longer-term anxiety, like with losing a job, that kind of response predisposes people to depression.This can lead to a destructive Catch-22.If people are anxious and depressed and cant sleep, said Fraser, they might be less able to do the things they need to do to find another job or to at least keep their spirits high enough to feel good about other things that may be going on in their lives.Experts told Ladders that external support should be sought if these sym ptoms worsen or extend over time, or if feelings of hopelessness platzset in.We all feel stress - but the shift to anxiety or depression typically comes when you start to experience feelings of hopelessness, and some of the things you used to enjoy you no longer enjoy, said Kevin Skinner, who has a Ph.D. in marriage and family therapy and is an author and radio-show host. And so you shift gears from, Im going to make it through this - I dont know the answer, but Im going to make it through this, to, I dont know if were going to make it. You need to have some anxiety - we all have some anxiety, said Justin Tobin, a psychotherapist in private practice in downtown Chicago. If we dont have any anxiety, then well never be able to meet any of our own goals. Its when we start to buy into the belief that theres only six months left - what if I dont find something? Those thoughts can push on the anxiety and make the anxiety uncontrollable.Mass depressionCoping with the feelings that go along with a job loss is challenging under any circumstances, but, as the economy continues to flounder and the news seems to go from bad to worse each day, job seekers find themselves dealing with negative group-think and perhaps even a mass depression.Jolkovski likened the current situation to the aftermath of 9/11. The analogy I would make is, after 9/11, we all saw that film loop of that horrible, horrible fireball. After a while, we needed to turn off the TV - wed seen that fireball enough.Fraser took the notion a step further, saying that too much exposure to television and the Internet - regardless of the program - can have mental as well as physical consequences.I think its important that people limit their time watching the TV, said Fraser. There are actual studies that show that too much TV goes along with increased depression. And part of it is, physically, people are just sitting there, watching something, and our bodies were not meant to do that. Again, back to evolu tionary psychology, we need to be out running around and doing physical exercise.In fact, experts told Ladders time and again that regular exercise and eating right are key to maintaining the healthy mind and body that will be required for an arduous job search.We all sweat from anxiety, said Elizabeth Friedman, a clinical psychologist in New York. It is way better to sweat from a good workout. There is all kinds of evidence that exercise releases all kinds of good stuff in your brain and makes you more positive.Indeed, people will have to work hard to overcome the repeated rejection that can come with an extended job search.The mind has to change to the concept of, Its going to take me a while to find a job, said Skinner, who also shares his expert advice at MyExpertSolution.com. Think Its not a matter of if, but a matter of when I get that new job. And until then, Im going to be hitting up against a lot of rejection. And we dont deal with rejection very well as human beings, espe cially when it has to do with our finances and being able to provide for our families.Jolkovski agreed.Its sort of like the entrepreneurs mentality, where people are doing something and the success is uncertain, he said. Just like certain salespeople - if they get a 1 percent response rate, then theyre doing well. They have to have the mentality to make 99 calls and say, Well, theres one more down, instead of saying, Oh, Ive been rejected 99 times. Creative thinkingThe experts also noted that job seekers would do well to employ some creative thinking. In todays market, your next job might not be the same as the one from which you were let go - in function, responsibility or pay. But that may have to be OK and, in some cases, can be a positive life change.Try and flip it around as an opportunity, Friedman said. There are jobs out there - not as many, but there are jobs. You could find something a little different, and thats cool. Change is growth. For many of us, change can be a v ery scary thing. For people who are very successful, change is usually a very positive challenge and, potentially, a very exciting thing. To do a job thats a tiny bit different or even a lot different - but within your skill set in any case - thats kind of nice.After her lone job offer fell through and nothing else hit despite her best efforts, Grace Barry decided it was time for something a lot different. She set out to build a consultancy of her own and began doing research and networking for the new business.During that process - and completely out of left field - she was recruited by a person she had gone to for advice and was hired for a position at his company.The position is actually in business development, and I had only been on the engineering side, and its certainly at quite a salary cut, said Barry of her new job. But Im working today, and Im very, very happy to be working. You always hear, Keep networking, keep networking - I never stopped networking. I never stopp ed doing what I was supposed to do. I did everything that I read about, everything I heard about. It was almost like an act of desperation got me someplace where I could interview for a job.Setting expectations is key to maintaining a sense of hope. It may take a while, but your journey wont be exactly like Grace Barrys, or any one persons. It will be your own, and reminding yourself that you are the one in control of the situation can be the key to keeping your composure.